Why is it so difficult to apologize? Does it make the person who is apologizing less of a person because he or she has to admit that they have done something which may be considered unacceptable? Does an apology do as much or maybe more for the person who is the giver as for the receiver? An apology can help a person move past their anger which in turn can prevent them from getting stuck in the past. It is amazing how an apology can mend a relationship by its power to repair harm and increase empathy. At times the remorse and shame of hurting someone can become both mentally and physically draining for both parties involved. In fact, apologizing can have both a decrease in important bodily functions such as blood pressure, breathing and heart rate especially on the part of the person who feels that they have been harmed. Apologizing is difficult because it can make a person accept responsibility which can be a humbling experience. On the other hand it can develop a sense of empathy on the part of the other person because they can now look at the wrongdoer as someone as fallible as themself instead of looking at them with bitterness and anger. This in turn sets aside space for forgiveness and the possibility for a more intimate relationship in the future. At the same time it should be sincere, timely without excuses for certain actions. This is not to say that an apology can undo the harmful past actions but it may eliminate the negative after effects of the action by giving the receiver time to heal. More important, since apologizing is so difficult it can be a deterrent for repeating a certain action.
Last week, we hosted a workshop in partnership with the organization Opportunities for a Better Tomorrow (OBT). We talked about the importance of paying attention to nutrition labels and compared common edible products to a healthier alternative. The students loved it!
Opportunities for a Better Tomorrow exists to break the cycle of poverty and inequity through education, job training, and employment.
OBT’s programs serve as a bridge to economic opportunity for youth, individuals, and families in underserved communities. We emphasize the principles of accountability, confidence, and professionalism to prepare participants for the workforce while developing personal and professional skills.
Every so often a new study is conducted on squirrels.
It is usually done in Central Park where there is an
extremely high concentration of these little creatures.
The study not only involves their number and color
but also their habits. It seems that there is a great deal
of thought that goes into their daily activities. They are
masters in the art of deception. Squirrels will actually
plant a fake nut which could be a rock if they feel they
are being watched by another squirrel. They also engage
in what is called ”spacial chunking”. That is they arrange
the planting of their nuts according to size, type of nut
and even according to their nutritional value. They are
able to record all these facts by rubbing each nut on their
cheeks to let off their scent. These little guys plant in
patterns they are able to follow throughout the winter to
make sure they meet all their dietary needs.
New research is showing that lifting weights may have an effect on lifting a person’s mood. It has already been established that exercise can reduce symptoms of depression but until recently most of this evidence had to do with studies based on the effects of aerobic exercise. In 2017 research on the positive effects of resistance training on anxiety were published in JAMA Psychiatry but that particular research did not address the effects on depression. These researchers decided to reevaluate 200 previous studies to see if they could determine if indeed weight training eased symptoms of depression. What they found was all subjects had a decrease in depression no matter how severe the symptoms were. It did not matter how often they weight-trained, whether it was 2 times or 5 times a week. What mattered was consistency. The reduction on levels of depression seemed to occur no matter what age the subject was. The results did not suggest that resistance training was better then aerobics or medication but it showed that there is also another avenue to explore when someone suffers from depression.