One of the most powerful tools we have for both learning and achieving is feedback. Yes there is both positive and negative feedback, it depends on how it is given. When it is negative it is often looked upon as criticism and is often hard to accept. It may be the way it is sometimes delivered. Even negative feedback can help a person grow. Why do people fear a negative review at work and why do leaders make it such a dreadful experience? It could be the word negative itself. It can take skill, respect and patience to deliver feedback. Delivering it in a manner that it is geared toward effective and constructive growth for the recipient is important. Feedback has to be timed. It is so much more effective if it is not delivered in the heat of the moment. I personally have a rule. It’s called “the 24 hour rule”. Give yourself that amount of time to digest, to calm down and react in a more positive way that in the long run can help both sides arrive at a fruitful position, without any defensive, and regretful comments. Relating it to yourself “I always find that when I do this a certain way” for example can make it easier for a person to digest while making the person giving the feedback more relatable. It is also important to go slow. In other words if there is more than one situation you wish to comment on maybe it is better to stick to one in particular. A good rule of thumb is to give a slightly constructive criticism and then follow it with a highly positive one. What usually happens if feedback is grounded in negativity, a sense of failure will follow. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and see if you would be comfortable in the way you are delivering feedback.